Sexual Abuse

For some of us, our first sexual experiences were not the result of our choices or desires. This is the dark side of Vesta.

Whether we were molested as children or forced into sex by one of our boyfriends as a teenager or even raped, our awareness of our sexuality may be tainted with feelings of shame, anger and confusion. As a result, we may become so frightened of sex that we cannot achieve true intimacy with our partners. Or we take huge risks, having many partners without ever creating close emotional bonds.

Working through these issues takes time and usually requires the help of a good counselor. Through no fault of your own, you suffered a terrible loss -- but you were strong enough to survive it. You are also strong enough to overcome it, even if the journey seems long.

Most towns and cities have sexual assault centers staffed with trained volunteers and counselors who can refer women to appropriate care. If you seek such help, trust your gut feeling about the counselor. If the match doesn't feel right, find someone else. A counselor -- or hypnotherapist, psychiatrist, doctor or clergy member -- who's not right for you will only make things worse.

Once you find a good counselor, you can walk the road to recovery with confidence that you have a knowledgeable guide to help you find your way.

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